I love weddings – not only are they a celebration of the
start of a life together etc etc but they are also a fantastic insight into the
character of the people celebrating the marriage and the culture from which
they hail. We were lucky enough to be
invited to weddings in Kazakhstan, Turkey and Malaysia and we have, of course,
also attended weddings in our home countries of the UK and Ireland and I have
celebrated, from afar, the weddings of many more friends around the world that
I could not manage to get to in person.
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| No event in Saudi is complete without coffee |
Most weddings involve a ceremony and a party and guests do
not, of course, always attend all parts of the event. Here in Saudi Arabia things are slightly
different in that there are two wedding celebrations – the bride’s celebration
and the groom’s celebration. A few months ago I was invited to a bride’s party – the daughter of a friend of a friend was
getting married and the mother of the bride very kindly extended an invite to
me.
I was a little concerned about what to wear – wedding
etiquette is a minefield wherever you are.
My friend told me the usual dress code was anything you liked but
preferably black tie over cocktail and no need for white tie. Most of my black tie dresses were bought when
we lived in Kazakhstan and so are definitely not demure, I would not wear them
in mixed company here in Saudi Arabia or indeed in any Gulf country. I sent some photos to my friend and, to my very great surprise, was told
they were perfect.
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| Some things seem universal - confetti everywhere! |
Weddings here are very much a late night affair. My friends and I arrived at the wedding at about 11:30pm – some of the
first to turn up. Having walked past the modesty screens that stand behind all doors to womens only areas here we discarded our abayas at the concierge and walked into a room full of
women dressed to kill and dancing the night away. All the staff, from the DJ to the waitresses
were female. Having given our
congratulations to the mother of the bride we settled down to people
watch. Women were socialising, dancing and generally having fun, none of us were really keen on dancing so we spent the time comparing wedding traditions from our respective home countries. I must admit that I still don't have a real understanding of how weddings work here - from what my friends describe a process by which the parties set out the rules of their married life and the protections and rights of the parties. The bride and groom must marry in court although there is also a religious blessing/wedding as well.
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| The tables set up for the meal - A friend grabbed this photo just before everyone else came through. |
About an hour later we got the
call to cover if we wanted to as the groom was coming (the groom attends the bride’s celebration for
a short while but the bride does not attend the groom’s). A long ululating cry sounded as the bride in
a beautiful white dress and groom in formal traditional dress started their
slow walk from the entrance to a double chair set on a stage at the front of
the room; guests threw silver confetti on the couple. There was time for photographs of the couple
with female family members and the bride and groom cut the cake and had a quick
dance before he left.
Apparently cake
and a first dance are not traditional but are becoming more and more popular amongst families who spend time abroad. We were served cake and then, invited into the gardens to
enjoy a meal outside, by this time it was past 2 in the morning and I must
admit that I struggled to eat very much, for most other people, however, the
party continued in earnest. It was a wonderful
evening and a fascinating insight into an aspect of life and culture here that
I had not yet experienced. As I said I
love weddings and I wish the couple every happiness.
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